Im dating the campus nerd
Let the relationship go where it will on its own. As much as you can, you need to lighten up and enjoy him and the relationship for its own sake.
You see your girlfriend as a specific individual, someone you love and care about, not as a member of any particular ethnic group. As I said to Jezhr above, the reality is often refreshingly unremarkable. And I feel like it will be even harder in the future.
And long-term, one of three outcomes is going to occur… 1. Its been 3 days now, I like her too much but its in the back of my mind all the time.